Bleh, I suck at consistent blogging. But now seems like a good time to post an update. Guys, I’m on the verge of another professional move. I’ve landed a new job at one of my dream PR agencies! An agency I’ve always admired and have followed since researching PR agencies in grad school. This is another noteworthy step in my absolutely unexpected journey into the Fashion PR industry. But through the triumph of landing a new job, I’ve also developed some important life skills; which could be even more significant of an accomplishment.
From childhood I always pictured my life playing out a certain way. I imagined I’d achieve certain milestones by certain ages, and then real life ensued. I went to college and the uncontrollable forces that be exercised their influence on my perfectly planned out life. As it turns out most of my young Autumn projections were super off. I didn’t become an architect, find my husband in college, or get married at 25. Instead I chose a career in PR, got a bachelor’s degree, then a Master’s degree, interned in non-profit, government, and the public sector and eventually made the jarring move to New York. I didn’t get hired straight out of school into a well-paying job, I interned…for free, performed menial tasks, sat quietly and got promoted into roughly the same job with a new title. Still grossly underpaid in comparison to what I deserve according to the national averages of SimplyHired, Glassdoor, and Indeed(based on skill set and education); I’ve humbly accepted another Assistant position. A guy I went to undergrad with is now a Senior Account Executive at a huge PR firm, the kind located on every continent. I Googled his salary and almost cried. Now stack these cards against some of the other career journeys I’ve depressingly chronicled over useful tools like Linkedin, Facebook, and Instagram and the mid-mid-life crises can occur.
Before you think I’m throwing a “Whoa is me pity party”, I say all this to discuss a common phenomenon I’ve noticed among my peers. “I’m just not where I thought I’d be professionally at this point in life. I’m not satisfied, I want to be doing more.” I’m not the only one experiencing this evaluation, and consequent depression/disappointment. We hold these truths to be self-evident:
- Expectations vs. Reality can be absolutely stifling.
- Comparison is the thief of joy.
- Filters will fool you.
When you let these factors influence the evaluation of how you’re doing in life you set yourself up to develop a complex. We cannot let these mid twenties’ trends, ruin the most youthful age we’re ever going to have! Youth is fleeting, and there is no rewind. To create a healthier outlook on my life’s current path I’ve been working on establishing contentment with my current position. Try on these revolutionary concepts for size:
Trust the Journey
Believe you are EXACTLY where you’re supposed to be
Write down what this life position is teaching you
Accept that it’s not where you want to be, but doesn’t change your desired destination.
Even with all of my mid-twenties comparison and previous expectations stacked before me, I’ve been doing surprisingly well at embracing the tactics to promote contentment while combating dissatisfaction. Mantras, prayer, and making a list of my current accomplishments have worked really well for me. Whenever I feel myself succumbing to the anxiety of comparison I silently say,
“I am exactly where I’m supposed to be at this point my life, I trust God’s plan for my life, this position is preparing me for my next level . This is enough, I am fine.”
Chose methods and phrasing that are most natural to you, the key is to make a CONSCIOUS effort to change the way you think. Thoughts become things, those things will either help or hurt you on your path. You get to choose! So as I enter this new opportunity as seemingly insignificant or underpaid as it may be, I chose to believe it’s setting me up for something amazing. And there is no comparing or projecting what that might be.